Enough is Enough

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APRIL 2020. MONTHLY INSPIRATION

This Month: Non-Excess (Brahmacharya): Enough is Enough!

Previous months: Monthly Inspiration.

 

Dear Champs,

 

I started these blogs on Monthly Inspiration, which are part of the Yearly Walkabout course, in January 2020 and funny enough, each topic has been so relevant for the month I was writing it in.

 

It might be good to know that these blogs are reposts of blogs that I had available on another platform of mine that I took offline. I realised I was writing more about personal development than Yoga, so basically Yinyogawithmarianne.com got transformed into Mariannedekuyper.com and Superchangechampion.com.

 

Thus; … Ready for the theme of April?

Non-Excess is what we will look at this month.

 

So, let’s take a look at Non-Excess closer to home.

How sacred is life to you?

 

Let’s look at:

Enough is Enough

Brahmacharya means Non-Excess and it’s one of the Yoga ethics. And it reminds us of the sacredness of life. Whether we find ourselves overdoing food, work, exercise or sleep, excess is often the result of forgetting the sacredness of life as Deborah Adele writes in her book ‘The Yamas and Niyamas’ [1].

Just like Deborah explains: “This guideline is a call to leave greed and excess behind and walk in the world with wonder and awe, practicing Non-Excess and attending each moment as holy.” And Non-Excess is also very much linked to all other Yoga Ethics, especially the one from last month: Asteya. Non-Stealing.

 

We often indulge ourselves, because we believe we need it and deserve it. Only when is enough really enough? Non-Excess is a Yoga ethic that tells us to find the right balance between modesty and excess and asks us to recognize the abundance that is already present in our lives. Thus, enough is enough!

 

There is nothing wrong with enjoying a good cup of coffee, a glass of wine or a delicious meal or buying something that we’d like to have or need. It only becomes a problem when we need it to feel good. If we become obsessive about it, we have a problem to tackle. In that case it’s more like an addiction than a well-deserved treat. In Yoga it’s about sensing that limit of when something is enough. It’s about sensing the difference between being greedy and choosing something, because you truly need it to stay healthy or alive.

 

Do I really need it?”.

 

When you get something or order something, do you then ask yourself: “Do I really need it?”. Okay, if you are thirsty, you drink. When you are hungry, you eat. When you are tired, you sleep. Have you got a lot of energy? Then you can choose to go for a run or use the energy to get your life into the right direction. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

It is important to feel these needs and respond to them. Only what do you do when your neediness is getting out of proportions? What if you eat too much, drink too much, spend too much money or do too much in one day? What makes you lose your balance? What makes it difficult to live a harmonious life?

 

‘When we see with the eyes of mystery,
we begin to see the sacred in the ordinary and
the ordinary in the sacred’_
Deborah Adele.

 

Often, we forget the sanctity (= the state or quality of being holy, sacred, or saintly) of life as Deborah Adele mentions it in her book ‘The Yamas and Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practice’. Modesty (Non-Excess) is a Yoga directive reminding us to forget about greed and excess and instead to look at the world around us and in us from a point of admiration and wonder.

 

She recommends regarding each moment as holy and to truly care for the resources that we have at our disposal. It is about consciousness. It about focusing our attention and being aware of our surroundings. It is about responding appropriately. It is important knowing when something is just right and when enough is enough.

 

Only why does it appear to be so difficult to give up our so-called addiction of wanting more and more? Well, your mind creates a link between certain emotions and certain drinks, food or certain activities. So, a certain product or activity becomes an equivalent to obtaining something else:

  • Coffee = relaxation
  • Wine = want to forget everything
  • Ice cream / cake = consolation
  • Buying something = happiness

 

This is how we become emotionally dependent on certain resources. We match a feeling with a ‘simple’ physical need. We become so attached to it, that sometimes it seems like we cannot live without it. Once this happens, we really are in trouble. Then we have gotten so attached to achieving that desired state. We have then created an addiction and become emotionally dependant.

 

What do the Yogi’s advice you to do? Live in Non-Excess. Take what you need to survive, not more. Live a modest life.

What else? Learn to distinguish the physical need and the story connected to it. Learn to recognize the feelings inside of you.

 

Feel into it

The steps that need to be taken are:

  • Observe what is present;
  • Recognize it for what it is;
  • Acknowledge it;
  • Accept that it is present;
  • Let it be.

 

Thus, what do you feel? What do you truly need? Do you need that bucket of ice-cream or do you actually need a friend and someone to support you?

It is important to learn to recognize the truth. What are you truly experiencing? How can you stop the emotional attachment? Right, like we saw above, by simply recognizing it and letting it be.

 

Last but not least, don’t look for another solution. Chances are you will then get attached to that one again and the whole process starts all over again. Accept what is present in you. It is the first step to change. Only when you are aware of your addictions and your indulgences, can you break with it. Enough is Enough!’ 

 

Good to know!

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Marianne de Kuyper

 

P.S. I’m a Dutch girl going global. Even though I reread everything multiple times, my apologies in case I’ve made a language mistake somewhere. Just e-mail me about it. I’ll be happy to adjust it (if I can) and learn from it!

 

[1] The Yamas and Niyamas, exploring yoga’s ethical practice, Deborah Adele.
[2] When I refer to the body, I don’t just mean the physical body. With it I refer to the physical body, emotional body, mental body, environmental body and spiritual body. This is the way I understood the theory shared with me and other students at a Yin Yoga Teacher Training given by Sarah Powers who is known from the book ‘Insight Yoga’.
[3] James Higgins, Yoga instructor, www. jameshigginsyoga.com
[4] Quoted from Marc Allen, The Mystical Path, ISBN 978-1-60868-145-7.

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// I, Marianne (founder) am a Dutch girl going global. Even though (the team and) I reread everything multiple times, my apologies in case I’ve made a language mistake somewhere. Just e-mail me about it. I’ll be happy to adjust it if I can and learn from it! //